ויפל על צוארי בנימין אחיו ויבך ובנימין בכה על צואריו (ויגש מה:יד)

And he fell on his brother Binyamin’s neck and cried, and Binyamin cried on his neck.

The Imrei Emes of Ger zt’’l came to greet  Reb Aharon of Belz zt’’l upon his arrival to Eretz Yisroel following his miraculous escape from war-torn Europe. The Imrei Emes warmly welcomed Reb Aharon, saying: “When Yosef and Binyamin wept on each other’s necks, they each cried over each other’s future ‘churban’ – destruction.  Yosef cried because of the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash, which was in Binyamin’s section of land, and Binyomin cried because of the destruction of the Mishkan in Yosef’s section. So why didn’t they each cry for their demise?”

The Imrei Emes wanted to strengthen Reb Aharon’s resolve with the explanation on the pasuk: “We learn from this encounter that a person has to rebuild anew following his destruction.  One shouldn’t cry; just build! And if you do want to cry, it should be over the others misfortune – to show compassion.”