ויפל על צוארי בנימן אחיו ויבך ובנימן בכה על צואריו (ויגש מה:יד)

When the Imrei Emes of Gur zt״l met Maran Reb Aharon of Belz zt״l in Eretz Yisroel, following Maran’s miraculous rescue, the Imrei Emes said to him:

Chazal teach that after Yosef revealed himself to his brother, they wept upon one another’s necks. Yosef wept over the future churban—the destruction of the two Batei Mikdash that would stand in Binyamin’s portion—while Binyamin wept over the churban of the Mishkan in Shilo, which was in Yosef’s territory. We must ask: why did each not weep over his own churban?

The Imrei Emes explained: From here we learn that a person must rebuild from his own devastation—not cry over it, but build anew. And if one is to cry, it should be over the pain of another, for such tears are an act of chessed.